I don't need your approval

There are things I wish I could change about my life and myself. I would make things easier on myself and my son if I could...

Thomas is ADHD. This diagnosis has been a difficult one for me. What mother wants to admit that her child is in need of help. I cried and prayed and berated myself for a long time. All of this issues he's had over the past few years, I chalked up to being a bad mother & beat myself up for my son being out of control...

Here's the rub though... it's not my fault. and it's not his either. i hated getting after him because he couldn't focus on anything. he's off in Thomas-land 98% of the time. i would yell & scream and threaten him with spankings, timeouts, taking away toys if he couldn't get his act together.

Then came the hitting and tantrums at school... This was my eye opener. My sweet child was getting increasingly more and more out of control. I tried therapy, was told he's fine. Tried dietary changes, nothing. he got worse & nearly got kicked out of daycare, so I moved him to the pre-school. The structure helped him, but he was still having problems participating with his classmates...

I made a decision. I spoke with his pediatrician & we went over all possibilities & tried multiple things to help... there was the instillation of a strict bedtime regiment (which helped some), took out all sugar and sodas from his food. all this to no avail.

He has been on medication for 2 months now...

There are people who disagree with my choice and question my parenting because I did what I knew was best for my son. I didn't just search out a doctor to give me meds because I didn't want to deal with my kid. I don't regret my choice.

Today, my son is back to being sweet and loving and is excelling in school. He has caught up to his classmates and is quickly passing them up. He still has issues and still struggles, but they are no longer to the extreme.

I continue to look out for what is best for my son and will defend to the death my decisions regarding him. But until you have walked a mile in my shoes, you have no right to judge me for being the best mother I can be